The 5 love languages are ways of expressing and receiving love. You may have taken the quiz or read the book written by Gary Chapman “The Five Love Languages”. You know the value of knowing the love language of your mate, but also yours if you have taken the quiz or read Chapman’s book.
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Everyone feels and appreciates love with a different value. This is what ultimately determines your love language.
The 5 Love Languages:
- Words of Affirmation
- Physical Touch
- Receiving gifts
- Quality Time
- Acts of service
Let’s take a look at each of the 5 love languages
1. Words of Affirmation
You can communicate words of affirmation by encouraging, affirming, appreciating, empathizing, and listening actively to your partner.
Actions to take that expresses words of affirmation include: sending an unexpected note, text, or card. Words of affirmation are expressed by genuinely encouraging your partner often.
2. Physical Touch
Communicating the physical touch is non-verbal. It’s literally physically touching your partner. You can communicate a physical touch by using body language to express love.
Actions to take that express physical touch include: hugging, kissing, holding hands. Most importantly showing physical affection often. Most importantly, making intimacy a priority.
3. Receiving Gifts
Receiving gifts is communicated by being thoughtful. This requires making your spouse a priority and speaking purposefully.
Actions to take that expresses receiving gifts include: giving thoughtful gifts. This love language proves that small things “gift” matter in big ways. Gratitude for your partner is displayed when receiving gifts.
4. Quality Time
Quality time is communicated by an uninterrupted and focused conversation with your partner. Having one on one time is crucial.
Actions to take that expresses quality time include: creating special moments together, taking walks together, and making memories with weekend getaways.
5. Acts of Service
Acts of Service is communicated by using action phrases. Your partner wants to know that you are partnered with them and are willing to help them.
Actions to take that expresses acts of service include: doing chores together (helping cook and clean) and going out to your way to alleviating the workload of your partner.
Why it’s important to understand your partners love language
First, it is important to know and understand the love language of your partner as it can help you understand how they express their love so that you can feel more valued. As critical as learning your partner’s love language is for you, your partner should also know yours.
For example, knowing what each of you wants will help you express love in the ways you want them to express. Such as physical contact, words of encouragement, acts of service, and etc.
Andrew and I decided to take the couples quiz to figure out our love language and here are our results:
Andrew’s Love Language- Quality Time
Andrew has always made quality time an important aspect of our relationship. With this quiz revealing his love language is quality time, I felt it to be very fitting to our relationship.
He does feel the most loved and appreciated when we spend quality time together. That consists of giving each other undivided attention. Looking at each other and engaging in deep and connecting conversations.
I enjoy those moments of quality time we share. We even made it a priority to go out every two weeks on a date and at least once a month we plan a mini weekend getaway. Quality time keeps our relationship fresh as we continue to date each other even after being married for 7 years.
With 7 years of experience of being married, my biggest advice is to never stop dating your spouse!
This past weekend we had the house to ourselves and decided to be tourists in our own town. We started off date night on Friday with a carriage ghost tour in town. On Saturday, we enjoyed brunch farm to table style with Abe Lincoln.
Creating experiences is something we truly enjoy.
My Love Language- Words of Affirmation
It was no surprise to me that my love language is words of affirmation. Of course, I am a firm believer that actions speak louder than words. Words are everything to me!
Andrew has grown to know and understand my love language well over the past 8 years and he knows just what to say, how to say it, and when to say it. And that makes everything so much easier within our relationship.
Whats your partners love language? What’s your love language?
If you have a chance, please take the couple’s quiz. I highly recommend you and your partner take the love language quiz just so you can get a better understanding of what makes each other feel loved and appreciated. Which is the secret to creating a love that will last.
In addition, I also would recommend for you to read Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.
If you are interested in purchasing I will link his book below:
Leave a comment below with your love language results. Was your result what you expected?
Finally, also, comment below if you read Gary Chapman’s book or if you will be purchasing. Leave a review of what you think about the book and the 5 love languages. I am looking forward to reading your responses.
With Love,